Many parents may look forward to that day when their child, now an adult, moves out into the big world; this is a celebration of a job well done. However the pride of accomplishment is tinged with loss, sadness for the childhood that has gone by. The little arms that would wrap themselves around a neck as they said “I love you” are all grown up and off to start a family of their own.

 The better the change…the worse we tend to feel about any feelings that aren’t “all good.” In fact, often we just want to bypass or detour this part of the journey. However, a detour won’t take it off your map, because to fully embrace the future, the past must find its home.

 In going forward, there is always leaving behind. There is a part of you that is now only a memory, as the new you goes on. This “feeling” is completely normal, and although often uncomfortable, we all experience this “grieving” when dealing with significant change…even the good stuff.

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When I work with my clients, I have the opportunity to bring clarity and focus into their lives. However, what is frequently apparent is that no matter how great I do that with others…it is extremely difficult to do for myself. There is an old saying “You can’t see the forest for the trees”.

Well, I am incredibly fortunate to have phenomenal coaches, counselors and accountability people in my life…however there was this one thing that had been nagging at me for a couple months. I had all this material; I was wading through it, but just couldn’t seem to find a common thread…voila…an hour with a friend earlier this week made it all seem so simple and so obviously apparent.

If you don’t have someone in your life who can give you objective feedback from a point of some expertise…find someone who does it well, whatever it is. Spend time with them; give them permission to give you feedback and to hold you accountable to follow through on your discussion.

 Life changes when I do!

Joy Beyond Freedom is a Journey!

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Somewhere there is a part of us that knows this. Most of us have heard at some time or another, “No change equals No change.” Sometimes we don’t know what to do to change.

Other times we know exactly what to do, but for some reason are immobilized to make that change. Maybe we are overwhelmed by the sheer amount of changes we might need to make to successfully navigate whatever challenge we might be facing. Maybe we just don’t have the strength to make that giant leap. Maybe it really is “their” fault. Maybe the marketplace has changed.

As hard as I have tried to change others during the course of my lifetime, I have finally resigned myself to the fact that I CAN NOT make anyone else change. Admittedly it would be a whole lot easier if everyone else would just step into line. However, since that isn’t about to happen much of the change in my world has had to start with me. I have had to change the way I think of things. This last summer I spent some time contemplating the transformation of caterpillars.

To a caterpillar even pebbles look big. Yet some huge butterflies soar above my roofline, while others migrate across continents. Amazing!

When I draw my circle and focus on “what changes can I make” I take back control of my life. And the funny thing is that although I can not make anyone change, when I change and begin to move forward in my life it creates a vacuum behind me that brings others along on the journey.

Today…what one change can I make in any given area that would make the most difference? Because My life changes when I do!

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Joy…Beyond Freedom is really about the journey, specifically the journey that I have personally been on and how that relates to others. Freedom has many meanings as there are people to define it.

Many contemplate freedom as some incredible destination. But beyond freedom, what then? The journey is about enjoying the trip to freedom, about the changes we make along the way, and about “what then”. What happens when we get there and what comes next?

“It’s about change!”

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